Friday, May 15, 2009
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Post Subjects
There will be no post hijackings allowed on this board. That means you stick to the topic and nothing more.
There will be no commenters allowed to push their opinions onto others, degrade others into feeling badly about their opinions and beliefs.
Either you will respect the decisions that each person who comes to this blog has made, with informed consent or you will not be welcome here.
If these simple rules cannot be followed then you may find another blog to post your comments on.
UPDATE:
"liberals have themselves become fascist-totalitarians who oppose and mock all thought, every fact, that does not support their politically correct analysis and conclusions."-- Phyllis Chesler
"You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." John Morley
Sadly and with regret I now have to moderate comments on this board because I have suddenly become the target of a group that has a politically motivated agenda which includes blog stalking and post hijacking in order to further their message and employs tactics of brow beating me and others into silencing any information that doesn't support their position.
I will not allow my blog to be a place where intimidation tactics are used to sway any parents or moms to be to labor and deliver or raise their children by anyone elses standards. This blog is about information dissemination so that each PARENT can make informed decisions and make informed consent or refusal of anything related to labor and delivery.
As my trainer always said: " IT'S NOT MY BIRTH"
There will be no commenters allowed to push their opinions onto others, degrade others into feeling badly about their opinions and beliefs.
Either you will respect the decisions that each person who comes to this blog has made, with informed consent or you will not be welcome here.
If these simple rules cannot be followed then you may find another blog to post your comments on.
UPDATE:
"liberals have themselves become fascist-totalitarians who oppose and mock all thought, every fact, that does not support their politically correct analysis and conclusions."-- Phyllis Chesler
"You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." John Morley
Sadly and with regret I now have to moderate comments on this board because I have suddenly become the target of a group that has a politically motivated agenda which includes blog stalking and post hijacking in order to further their message and employs tactics of brow beating me and others into silencing any information that doesn't support their position.
I will not allow my blog to be a place where intimidation tactics are used to sway any parents or moms to be to labor and deliver or raise their children by anyone elses standards. This blog is about information dissemination so that each PARENT can make informed decisions and make informed consent or refusal of anything related to labor and delivery.
As my trainer always said: " IT'S NOT MY BIRTH"
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Movie Screening in American Fork, UT
Birth Movie Screening Event
This a major event including the screening of three amazing childbirth films: Orgasmic Birth, The Business of Being Born, and Pregnant in America, and the producer of Orgasmic Birth will be at the screening as well!
Date: June 13, 2009
Location: Towne Cinema Theaters in American Fork, UT
Cost: $25
What: Screening of Orgasmic Birth, Pregnant in America, The Business of Being Born, Special Guest Speaker, Debra Pascali-Bonaro
Email: moviescreening@rawmelissa.com if you have questions
For more information or to order your ticket you can send an email to the email address listed above.
This a major event including the screening of three amazing childbirth films: Orgasmic Birth, The Business of Being Born, and Pregnant in America, and the producer of Orgasmic Birth will be at the screening as well!
Date: June 13, 2009
Location: Towne Cinema Theaters in American Fork, UT
Cost: $25
What: Screening of Orgasmic Birth, Pregnant in America, The Business of Being Born, Special Guest Speaker, Debra Pascali-Bonaro
Email: moviescreening@rawmelissa.com if you have questions
For more information or to order your ticket you can send an email to the email address listed above.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
The Delicate Balance of Choosing The Right Doula
Choosing a doula is a lot like dating. The chemistry has to be right and in the end you're going to be naked.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Common Misperceptions About Doulas
I've heard some interesting comments lately from moms and moms to be.
One woman I know from the bank I use was so happy to learn I am a doula. I gave her my card and said call me and I'll point you to some great books, information is always free.
That was the extent of our exchange. No pitch to hire me. No push. That's all folks.
The next time I went to my bank and she realized it was me pulling up to the drive in window, I swear the air thickened and the look was fear, looking at me.
I asked her how she was and mentioned I hadn't heard from her.
"I'm having a hospital birth. So I won't be needing a doula," was her response to me.
This is a myth. This could only have been fed to her by her insecure OB. I'll even go so far as to bodly call it a lie.
Most doulas work in hospitals with their laboring clients. Most births are had in hospitals in our culture. It's just the reality.
If your doctor has told you that you do not need a doula, you should be questioning his or her motives. Why would they tell you that another person, labor support, is not needed for you? Why do they not trust your judgment for yourself to have another emotionally supportive person in your labor and delivery room?
I've been to 10 births since I started my career as a doula. One planned homebirth that transfered after many hours of labor and one ended up in a C-section. I'm writing this as I await labor to start for my 11th birth that I will attend. All have been born in hospitals. Every one.
A doula I work with who has a three year old daughter, told me just today that her doctor told her during her prenatal visits that a doula would only get in the way and make contact with her harder.
This is another lie. Doulas do not take the role of the doctor or midwife. Doulas provide emotional and physical support and provide information to help the couple make informed decisions. We do not make decisions for our clients. We do not tell clients what to do. We do not step in front of the doctor, physically in any way.
And if you speak to just about any woman who already went through childbirth at a hospital, which will most likely be 100% of the moms you know in your personal life, you will learn that 100% of the time the OB was only around for the pushing stages of labor.
One woman I know from the bank I use was so happy to learn I am a doula. I gave her my card and said call me and I'll point you to some great books, information is always free.
That was the extent of our exchange. No pitch to hire me. No push. That's all folks.
The next time I went to my bank and she realized it was me pulling up to the drive in window, I swear the air thickened and the look was fear, looking at me.
I asked her how she was and mentioned I hadn't heard from her.
"I'm having a hospital birth. So I won't be needing a doula," was her response to me.
This is a myth. This could only have been fed to her by her insecure OB. I'll even go so far as to bodly call it a lie.
Most doulas work in hospitals with their laboring clients. Most births are had in hospitals in our culture. It's just the reality.
If your doctor has told you that you do not need a doula, you should be questioning his or her motives. Why would they tell you that another person, labor support, is not needed for you? Why do they not trust your judgment for yourself to have another emotionally supportive person in your labor and delivery room?
I've been to 10 births since I started my career as a doula. One planned homebirth that transfered after many hours of labor and one ended up in a C-section. I'm writing this as I await labor to start for my 11th birth that I will attend. All have been born in hospitals. Every one.
A doula I work with who has a three year old daughter, told me just today that her doctor told her during her prenatal visits that a doula would only get in the way and make contact with her harder.
This is another lie. Doulas do not take the role of the doctor or midwife. Doulas provide emotional and physical support and provide information to help the couple make informed decisions. We do not make decisions for our clients. We do not tell clients what to do. We do not step in front of the doctor, physically in any way.
And if you speak to just about any woman who already went through childbirth at a hospital, which will most likely be 100% of the moms you know in your personal life, you will learn that 100% of the time the OB was only around for the pushing stages of labor.
Monday, March 2, 2009
Orgasmic Births
This weekend I was asked if I had seen the movie Organsmic Birth. I have not yet. I found this video through another blogger and thought it was a great thing to share with all of you too.
Please share your positive birth experiences in the comment section of this post.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
VBAC's Do NOT Cause Deaths
I was invited to talk at a prenatal yoga studio today in NYC. Five women showed up for the talk. It was a lovely group of women. The knowledge of pregnancy ranged from almost nothing to one mom who read Ina May's Guide To Childbirth. WOOT!
As the talk ended and some of the moms left, two stayed behind to speak with me further. One discussed how much she was influenced by the movie Orgasmic Birth and how the information was so useful to her and how upset she was that so many of her friends were told that they MUST have a repeat C-section because a VBAC would be so risky to the baby that it would probably die.
This mom mentioned to me that many of her friends have heard this very statement and that it traveled around her circle of friends.
I will do another post with the research and statistical data on VBAC safety. For today I am just going to emphatically state that THIS IS A LIE! There is no place written to back up this lie and it can only be coming from ONE VERBAL SOURCE. It's certainly not coming from the doula community or the midwifery community.
As the talk ended and some of the moms left, two stayed behind to speak with me further. One discussed how much she was influenced by the movie Orgasmic Birth and how the information was so useful to her and how upset she was that so many of her friends were told that they MUST have a repeat C-section because a VBAC would be so risky to the baby that it would probably die.
This mom mentioned to me that many of her friends have heard this very statement and that it traveled around her circle of friends.
I will do another post with the research and statistical data on VBAC safety. For today I am just going to emphatically state that THIS IS A LIE! There is no place written to back up this lie and it can only be coming from ONE VERBAL SOURCE. It's certainly not coming from the doula community or the midwifery community.
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